Kindergarten Paperwork

It's already that time: signing Kristjan up for kindergarten!! I picked the paperwork up last Saturday and have been working on getting everything complete to turn it in on February 7th. I also met with the school nurse yesterday to pick up more paperwork in regards to Kristjan's allergies. Since Kristjan has what they call "life threatening food allergies" to tree nuts and peanuts, Pete and I have to set up a safety plan for the school in the event he has a reaction. Everything has to be completed and meds given to the school prior to the first day or school, or he can't attend. I'm trying to get everything done as soon as I can. So while Pete and I were working on the paperwork last night, we came upon a section that stated

"Doctor orders are not adequate for nurses to delegate 'what to do and when' to unlicensed staff if the nurse is not present. Therefore, Benadryl will no longer be administered first and there will not be a 'wait and watch' period of time."

So basically in the event of a reaction, the epi-pen will be administered. Really?! Pete and I understand all of this is because the school doesn't want to be held liable if something goes wrong, and of course we wouldn't want something serious to happen to Kristjan. But what if Kristjan has a topical reaction (which results in a rash to his face, give him benadryl and he's fine), is he getting hit with the epi-pen??? Our concern is we feel this is an extreme (and traumatizing) response for a small reaction. A few years back when Pete's mom had to inject Kristjan with the epi-pen, it took him a long time to get over it. He would constantly say "mama mickey hurt me", which of course she herself didn't do anything wrong, but that's what he associated with her for a while. And every time he heard a siren he'd get upset and ask us if they were coming to our house to give him a shot. Seriously, it took months for him to stop saying this stuff.

Plus, what's really irritating is the nurse is only at the school on Wednesdays; Kristjan is signed up for school to attend Tuesdays/Thursdays. And what's the point of us making a safety plan if the school won't be able to follow half of it? Half of the instructions would be to give him benadryl for any reaction (unless he's wheezy or not breathing).

This is frustrating....